Why do people yell when they are angry…

A sage asked his disciples…
‘Why do people yell at each other when they are upset?’

The disciples thought for a while, and one said, ‘We lose our calm and so we yell!’

‘But explain to me, why do you yell when the other person is right next to you?’ asked the sage. ‘Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you yell at a person when you’re angry?’ The disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the sage.

Finally the sage explained…
‘When two people are angry at each other, there is a distance which arises between their hearts.
To cover that distance they must yell, to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they will have to yell to hear each other through that great distance.’

Then the sage asked…
‘What happens when people are in love? They do not yell at each other but talk softly. Why? Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small.

The sage continued…
‘What happens when their love for the other grows even more? They do not speak, they only whisper. Their hearts come even closer with love. Finally they need not even whisper… they only look at each other and that’s all. That is how close people are when they love each other. The heart is like one.’

Then the sage said,
‘The lesson here is this…when you disagree do not let a distance come between your hearts. Relationships are far more important than specific outcomes. Do not say or do things that increase the distance between hearts, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you may not find the path to return.’

— from Nithya Shanti‘s page

About Deepti G Gujar

Deepti G Gujar loves to walk through life as openly as she can. Over the years spiritual practices such as past life regression therapy, Inner Child work, Rebirthing-Breathwork and EFT have entered her life and have answered some of the deepest questions that have happened to her since childhood. She loves to share her insights, lessons and discoveries through this blog. She also shares these tools with those who wish to deepen their own experience of life. For this, she takes one-on-one sessions in Pune and Mumbai, India. Feel free to share your thoughts and queries with her at: spirit.of.crea@gmail.com
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One Response to Why do people yell when they are angry…

  1. Parag says:

    How true, great way to put it across.


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